HOW TO STAY FOCUSED ON THE GOOD

There are two opposing forces at work within us that cause unhappiness. On the one hand, our culture and economic system are based on unhappiness. Businesses put in a lot of effort from beginning to end to stoke our need for more or something new. We are continually informed that if we don’t keep up with shifting trends, upgrade our technology, buy this new car, or even change the appearance of our appliances, we will miss out on something “better.”

Influencers are present on every social media platform and channel, keeping us in the dark about what we’re missing before letting us know. They grasp us in their hands from the palm of ours. As a result, we start to feel unhappy. We desire more, better, or different things. We follow the latest fashions in exercise, diet, and beauty. We explore new locations, visit the newest spots, or eagerly anticipate dining at the hottest new eatery.

Every time, we discover that we are missing out on something. We lose sight of the good we already accomplish in favor of what we lack. These outside factors do not operate in a vacuum. They resonate with a dissatisfied voice we already have inside of us. Both inside and outside, there is a stir of discontent. In other words, we gradually return to the same degree of happiness that we had before the change occurred, regardless of what we gain or the life events that take place. I would be foolish if I believed that having more things would finally make me joyful and end my discontent. Even after getting the desired item, if I were unhappy with my life before, I would inevitably be unhappy after that. Humans will constantly be let down if they think they can achieve better levels of happiness by just acquiring new things or altering their environment. This will never satisfy the voice inside of us.

This constantly stirs up unhappiness in our hearts, minds, and souls, both inside and externally.

 

 

We easily lose sight of the positive things around us due to unhappiness. Being unhappy with one’s situation is the fundamental definition of discontentment.

We never have enough money in our bank accounts.

We constantly yearn for more in terms of our goods and property.

We want something distinct from our bodies and appearance.

We long for a better situation at work.

We start to concentrate on all the things we want to alter in our marriages.

Because we are continually stirred up by discontent, nothing is ever good enough.

Look around, though. So many wonderful things surround you!

The first step to changing your mindset and finding contentment in your life is acknowledging them.

SAY IT OUT LOUD

Say this aloud the next time you are alone, whether at work, in the car, in the shower, or possibly right now: I’ve got it pretty good, you know. Say it, don’t just think it. I find it impossible to stop speaking after completing that phrase. I must continue the thinking because it just comes easy to do so. I start instantly making a list of the excellent things I have.

Typically, it sounds like this: What do you know? I’m doing pretty well. I adore my wife, have a job I like, have clothing on my back, am healthy, and appreciate my kids. And so, on and so on. Have a go at it. Next time you’re alone yourself.

PRACTICE GRATITUDE EVERY DAY

The greatest way to understand gratitude is as a discipline, not an emotional reaction to circumstances. So, put it into practice daily that is reasonable to you. You can be grateful while drinking your morning coffee, driving to work daily, praying, meditating, or doing yoga. You can practice appreciation when you put your head on the pillow or sit down to a meal with your family. It would help if you took action. The routine will quickly direct your attention to what is positive.

The greatest way to understand gratitude is as a discipline, not an emotional reaction to circumstances. So, put it into practice daily that is reasonable to you. You can be grateful while drinking your morning coffee, driving to work daily, praying, meditating, or doing yoga. You can practice appreciation when you put your head on the pillow or sit down to a meal with your family. It would help if you took action. The routine will quickly direct your attention to what is positive.

 

WHY DID YOU START?

Life has never been and will never be perfect. There is no such thing as a perfect job, home, or marriage. Thorns are present in even roses. It appears that over time, we tend to place more emphasis on the drawbacks than the advantages. It seems to be the natural tug on our thoughts. But we can overcome this propensity by consciously turning back the clock in our minds.

FOCUS ON THE POSITIVES

There’s room for discussion there. However, I never start the discussion by discussing how to change a spouse. Instead, I make a point of concentrating first on the good things. Before discussing how to change our spouse into the person we desire, we must take a moment to acknowledge everything they do for us. Are they the first to bring laughter into your home? Maybe they don’t clean the house enough. They might not be as adventurous as you want, but do they provide the stability you need in your life? Are they ____________, even if they might not be?

Focus on the good and positives in life.

We will never be able to appreciate the present for what it is if there is always something that can be changed or added to improve life. Once more, this does not imply that we stop striving to improve and become complacent. It simply means that we start appreciating all we have now rather than waiting for our circumstances to change before finding happiness. There are moments in life when it seems like the mental battle to keep our attention on the positive is more difficult than at other times.

Try a few of the suggestions above if you are having trouble finding the positive aspects of your life right now. You might be shocked to learn how much you have going for you.